Marriage Counseling Toronto, ON M5A 2K9, Lisa Kelly, RP

Looking for couples counselling, pre-marital or marriage counselling, or couples therapy in Toronto? I am Lisa M Kelly, a registered psychotherapist specializing in relationship counselling and relationship issues therapy for couples and individuals. My goal is to give you my heartfelt attention and facilitate your journey toward a more fulfilling life. In time, with the insights and the skills you gain, you will likely feel more at ease and be better equipped to handle life - acting on your own behalf and relating to others more effectively. I welcome you to get in touch so that you can experience the benefits of psychotherapy and counselling.

2009 - Present ( 10 years 4 months )

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211 Carlton St,
Toronto, ON M5A 2K9

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Monday: 8:00 am - 9:00 pm
Tuesday: 8:00 am - 9:00 pm
Wednesday: 8:00 am - 9:00 pm
Thursday: 8:00 am - 9:00 pm
Friday: 8:00 am - 9:00 pm
Other Hours: By appointment only
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Ontario
Marriage & Couples Counseling
Marriage & Couples Counseling
Communication Issues

Marriage Counseling focused on constructive communication techniques and strategies:

Communication problems are an issue for almost everyone, and every relationship. Not many people can say they are master communicators. People frequently struggle to say what they mean, whether by intentionally or because they just don’t know how. We often misunderstand each other, and at times we may think we understand, when the reality is, we don’t. This is where an experienced individual / marriage counselor can be invaluable, their unbiased point of view can assist you in hearing what is meant and assist you in resolving conflict. 

Conflict Resolution Issues

Marriage Counseling focused on constructive conflict resolution techniques and strategies:

Conflict in intimate relationships arises from many areas, including communication, intimacy, values, perceptions, parenting and the list goes on. When a conflict triggers strong feelings, a deep personal need is often at the core of the problem. These needs can be a need to feel safe and secure, a need to feel respected and valued, or a need for greater closeness and intimacy.

Control Issues

Marriage Counseling focused on addressing and reducing symptoms related to controlling behaviors, and addressing their root causes:

Control issues are characterized by a person’s need to micromanage and orchestrate the actions and behaviors of others. Control is most often a reaction to fear. There may be many reasons fear plays a role in one's life. People who struggle with the need to be in control often fear being at the mercy of others. Control issues can develop from traumatic events that created a feeling of helplessness and chaos, thus causing a person to crave control in a disproportionate and unhealthy manner.

Divorce Issues

Couples Counseling focused on addressing divorce related issues and their impact on your family, transitioning to a co-parenting relationship, while reducing and alleviating stress:

Divorce is a difficulty time for all involved . Therapy assists families with working through the difficult process, that includes getting through the painful emotions, considering the best interests of children and developing good co-parenting relations.

Emotional affair issues

Marriage Counseling focused on addressing issues related to emotional affairs, reducing and soothing symptoms, while addressing the root causes of the emotional affair:

Emotional relationships venture into dangerous territory. They may not initially lead to physical involvement, but they can still devastate marriages. It might have started with a conversation over the Internet, or with a seemingly innocent friendship in the workplace. These romances may seem harmless — perhaps even "safe" alternatives to cheating on your spouse. The truth is, such relationships venture into dangerous territory; they may not initially lead to physical involvement, but they can still devastate marriages.

Family & In-law issues

Marriage Counseling focused on addressing issues related to inlaw relationships and their impact on your relationship, reducing and alleviating symptoms, while addressing the root causes:

If you have disagreements with your in-laws, your spouse may feel caught in the middle between parents and you. You, meanwhile, have obligations to in-laws and spouse—and children, if you have any. When you married, you also became part of another family with its own set of expectations. You need to recognize and respect those—within limits, this is where a qualfied therapist can help both of you establish healthy boundaries.

Financial Issues

Marriage Counseling focused on addressing and reducing the effects of financial stresses, and its impact on your relationship:

Financial concerns impact many areas of your life and relationship, including but not limited to, physical, relational and emotional well being, and other related issues, and concerns.

Infidelity / Affair Recovery Issues

Marriage Counseling focused on addressing issues related to infidelity, reducing and soothing symptoms, while addressing the root causes of infidelity:

Infidelity in a committed relationship can create a significant strain on both partners and on the relationship itself. An affair often signals the end a relationship, but not always, with competent professional assistance and a commitment from both partners, sometimes it can be a significant turning point for the better. Often an affair may take the other partner completely by surprise, leaving that person feeling devastated, aggrieved, betrayed, jealous, confused, and alone. Some individuals and couples seek therapy at such a time to help recover and move on. 

Intimacy Issues

Marriage Counseling focused on addressing and soothing issues related to intimacy, and their impact on your relationship, while addressing the root causes of these issues:

An intimate relationship is an interpersonal relationship that involves emotional and or physical intimacy. Intimate relationships require and can have issues with communication, transparency, vulnerability and mutual trust.

Life Transitions Issues

Marriage Counseling focused on addressing and attenuating the effects of life transitions, and their impact on your relationship:

In the simplest terms, transition is change. In a broader sense however, transitions are life’s way of asking us to reexamine our present way of being. These transitions can be predictable such as a child leaving for college or marriage, or they can be unpredictable, such as the sudden death of a loved one or a traumatic accident. Whatever the degree or intensity of the event, every transition we experience has one thing in common. It forces us to make changes to our existing life. And with change, comes resistance. A major life transition literally closes one chapter of our life, and starts a new one, putting us in a new place and direction that we have not walked before. It is often a very difficult adjustment as we endure intense feelings of fear, doubt, and uncertainty.

Parenting Issues

Marriage Counseling focused on Healthy vs Unhealthy methods of parenting children, addressing root causes, and developing mutually agreeable parenting strategies:

No one is born with natural parenting skills. They are something that is learned from watching our own parents or from our own care givers. We do what we have learned, or what we have not learned! It is learned behavior.

Pregnancy & Birthing Issues

Marriage Counseling focused on addressing relationship issues related to pregnancy and birthing, reducing and soothing symptoms, while addressing the root causes:

Having a child can be one of the most joyful experiences. It can also be stressful, strain relationships, and precipitate all manner of difficult and or confusing emotions. If there are complications during the pregnancy or birth, such as health issues or financial difficulties, these stressors can result in grief, major life changes, and a variety of other unpredictable challenges. Unplanned pregnancies can create particularly intense strain on both individuals and their relationship.

Premarital Counseling

Premarital Counseling focused on developing healthy relationship strategies, and tools for a long and happy marriage:

What does premarital counseling look like? It is as varying and unique as the personality and background of the therapist. Finding someone that you can trust, and who honors your unique situation, is essential. All too many couples get caught up in spending time planning their weddings without developing a plan for their marriage. The early stages of a relationship, when the feelings you have for your partner are usually positive, is the ideal time to become more conscious and intentional in the ways you interact and work together. Counseling can give you insights into where your particular relationship dynamics might be heading in the wrong direction. There is an educational aspect to pre-marital counseling as well, so that you can learn better communication skills and leran how to negotiate conflict so that you can resolve your differences in a way that actually strengthens your connection.

Stress Management Issues

Marriage Counseling focused on developing constructive stress management techniques and strategies:

Stress symptoms may be affecting your health, frequent headaches, insomnia, chest pains, irritability, decreased productivity, and even forgetfulness. Stress may actually be the root cause of all of these symptoms. Stress symptoms can affect your body, your thoughts and feelings, and especially your behavior. Being able to recognize common stress symptoms can give you a jump on managing them. Stress that's left unchecked can contribute to health problems such as high blood pressure, heart disease, obesity and diabetes.

Trust Issues

Marriage Counseling focused on addressing and diminishing symptoms related to trust, and addressing the root causes for the trust issues:

Trust is a fundamental human experience, at the root of all trust issues is a past betrayal. Whether abused as a child or cheated on by a spouse, the betrayed person will go through life seeing herself as less desirable than others, or believing herself to be unlovable. She/he will keep others at a distance, avoiding intimate relationships. Only by working through these trust issues - or, rather, lack of trust issues - can the person learn to maintain a healthy boundary while still letting others in.

Individual Counseling
Individual Counseling & Coaching
Childhood Issues

Counseling focused on addressing and alleviating the effects of your individual upbringing:

Whether you come from an abusive family or a just a “normal” dysfunctional family, childhood issues can create problems in all areas of your life if you are not careful. Sometimes when we come from an abusive or dysfunctional home, we have issues in friendships as well as more intimate relationships. If you have trouble making and maintaining friends and relationships, it may signal a deeper issue.

Divorce Recovery Issues

Counseling focused on addressing and alleviating the after effects of a divorce:

The divorce recovery process involves a grieving process for most people, because it is a loss. Many people find it difficult to allow themselves the feelings connected to the grief process because they are painful, and pain is uncomfortable. After a divorce it is extremely important to give yourself "time out" to process the issues that contributed to the divorce in order to avoid making the same mistakes. Rebound relationships that don't work often create more pain and heartache leading to further feelings of failure and discouragement.

Emotional Affair Issues

Counseling focused on addressing issues related to emotional affairs, reducing and soothing symptoms, while addressing the root causes of the emotional affair:

Emotional relationships venture into dangerous territory. They may not initially lead to physical involvement, but they can still devastate marriages. It might have started with a conversation over the Internet, or with a seemingly innocent friendship in the workplace. These romances may seem harmless — perhaps even "safe" alternatives to cheating on your spouse. The truth is, such relationships venture into dangerous territory. They may not initially lead to physical involvement, but they can still devastate marriages.

Infidelity / Affair Recovery Issues

Counseling focused on addressing issues related to infidelity, reducing and soothing symptoms, while addressing the root causes of infidelity:

Infidelity in a committed relationship can create a significant strain on both partners and on the relationship itself. An affair often signals the end of a relationship, but not always. With competent professional assistance and a commitment from both partners, sometimes it can be a significant turning point for the better. Often an affair may take the other partner completely by surprise, leaving that person feeling devastated, aggrieved, betrayed, jealous, confused, and alone. Some individuals and couples seek therapy at such a time to help recover and move on.

Intimacy Issues

Counseling focused on addressing and soothing issues related to intimacy, and their impact on your relationship, while addressing the root causes of these issues:

An intimate relationship is an interpersonal relationship that involves emotional and or physical intimacy. Intimate relationships require and can have issues with communication, transparency, vulnerability and mutual trust.

Life Transitions Issues

Counseling focused on addressing and attenuating the effects of life transitions, and their impact on your relationship:

In the simplest terms, transition is change. In a broader sense however, transitions are life's way of asking us to reexamine our present way of being. These transitions can be predictable such as a child leaving for college or marriage, or they can be unpredictable, such as the sudden death of a loved one or a traumatic accident. Whatever the degree or intensity of the event, every transition we experience has one thing in common. It forces us to make changes to our existing life. And with change, comes resistance. A major life transition literally closes one chapter of our life, and starts a new one, putting us in a new place and direction that we have not walked before. It is often a very difficult adjustment as we endure intense feelings of fear, doubt, and uncertainty.

Parenting Issues

Counseling focused on Healthy vs Unhealthy methods of parenting children, addressing root causes, and developing healthy parenting strategies:

No one is born with natural parenting skills. They are something that is learned from watching our own parents or from our own care givers. We do what we have learned, or what we have not learned! It is learned behavior.

Relationships and Dating Issues

Counseling focused on addressing issues related to dating and developing a long term relationship, reducing and mitigating symptoms, while addressing the root causes:

You watch the relationship red flags waving at you, but gosh, she’s/he's just so good-looking. So you dismiss them to see where the relationship will go. The problem with turning a blind eye to those red flags is that eventually they’ll come back to haunt you. You end up hurt and resentful, and upset with yourself.

Self Esteem & personal growth Issues

Counseling focused on addressing issues related to self esteem & personal growth Issues, reducing and easing symptoms, while addressing the root causes:

Life is full of challenges, but often we don’t move forward until change is forced upon us. Upheaval forces us to re-evaluate who we are and how we got into the situation we are in. Personal growth refers to learning new and better ways to deal with life, for example learning to understand and handle emotions more effectively, or learning to communicate better.

Trust Issues

Counseling focused on addressing and diminishing symptoms related to trust, and addressing the root causes for the trust issues:

Trust is a fundamental human experience, at the root of all trust issues is a past betrayal. Whether abused as a child or cheated on by a spouse, the betrayed person will go through life seeing her/himself as less desirable than others, or believing her/himself to be unlovable. She will keep others at a distance, avoiding intimate relationships. Only by working through these trust issues - or, rather, lack of trust issues - can the person learn to maintain a healthy boundary while still letting others in.

Counseling Approaches
Counseling Approaches
Gestalt Therapy

Gestalt therapy is an existential/experiential form of counseling that emphasizes personal responsibility, and focuses experiences in the present moment, relationships, including the therapist-client relationship, and the self-regulating adjustments made as a result of the overall situation.

Group Counseling

Group therapy is a type of counseling that involves one or more therapists working with 6-10 people at the same time. Group therapy is sometimes used alone, but it is also commonly integrated into a comprehensive treatment plan that also includes individual therapy.

Individual Counseling

Individual counseling is an opportunity to talk confidentially with a counselor about personal concerns and to facilitate personal growth. The counselor and client work together to define and discuss personal issues and to reach mutually agreed upon goals.  Addressing a range of issues such as: Depression, anxiety (panic attacks, test anxiety, social anxiety, obsessive compulsive disorders), eating disorders, relationship difficulties, family conflict, grief and loss, self esteem, sexuality, substance abuse, sexual assault/trauma, anger management.

Marriage Counseling

Marriage counseling is a type of therapy for a married couple or established couple that assists in resolving problems in the relationship. Typically, two people attend counseling sessions together to discuss specific issues. Marriage counseling helps couples learn to deal more effectively with problems, and can help prevent problems from becoming more serious. Research shows that marriage counseling, when effective, tends to improve a person's physical as well as mental health, in addition to improving the relationship.

Premarital Counseling

What does premarital counseling look like? It is as varying and unique as the personality and background of the therapist. Finding someone that you can trust, and who honors your unique situation, is essential. All too many couples get caught up in spending time planning their weddings without developing a plan for their marriage. The early stages of a relationship, when the feelings you have for your partner are usually positive, is the ideal time to become more conscious and intentional in the ways you interact and work together. Counseling can give you insights into where your particular relationship dynamics might be heading in the wrong direction. There is an educational aspect to pre-marital counseling as well, so that you can learn better communication skills and learn how to negotiate conflict so that you can resolve your differences in a way that actually strengthens your connection.

Psychodynamic Therapy

Psychodynamic therapy, also known as insight-oriented therapy, focuses on unconscious processes as they are manifested in a person’s present behavior. The goals of psychodynamic therapy are a client’s self-awareness and understanding of the influence of the past on present behavior.

Relational Therapy

Relational therapy is the practice of assessing client’s psychological, emotional, and relational distress and present chronic suffering, in the context of their connectedness to others. The central focus is an effort to ascertain the root of the issues at hand.

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