Marriage Counseling Newport Beach, CA 92660, Dr. Tony Fiore, PhD -
Licensed Clinical Psychologist

My mission is to clinically work at the intersection of anger management and couples therapy so that couples can be less angry at each other, communicate better, and restore a feeling of love, harmony and emotional connection with each other that may have been lost in the process of living. 

 

1982 - Present ( 37 years 11 months )

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Office #1

behind John Wayne Airport at intersection of Jamboree and McCarthur

901 Dove Street, Suite 295
Newport Beach, CA 92660

Phone(s):

Mobile7147451393

Office Hours:

Monday: 9:00 am - 6:00 pm
Tuesday: 10:00 am - 6:00 pm
Wednesday: 12:00 pm - 7:00 pm
Friday: 9:00 am - 6:00 pm
Other Hours: By appointment only
Office #2

Between Atherton and Stearns, Just North of Cal State Long Beach

1945 Palo Verde Ave, Suite 202
Long Beach, CA 90815

Phone(s):

Mobile7147451393

Office Hours:

Tuesday: 10:00 am - 6:00 pm
Wednesday: 12:00 pm - 7:00 pm
Other Hours: By appointment only
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My Approach
My Approach

I counsel high conflict or emotionally disconnected couples in marriage or relationship who are on the brink and first need help in discerning  what to do about their marriage- what path to take. The first step in therapy is helping each partner gain clarity and understanding regarding the reasons they either are leaning-in or leaning- out of the marriage (this is called Discernment Counseling and takes from 1-5 sessions)

If the decision by both partners is to commit to work on the marriage, or if discernment counseling is not needed, the next step is to teach pratical skills to sort of "jump start"  the marriage. This is done in two stages: The first stage is that of teaching specific "love-hacks" or practical  skills that research has shown be used by successful couples regularly. These skills include things like anger management skills, communication skills, emotional expression skills, conflict resolution skills, and thinking skills that will help you re-build love and again feel connected to each other. Often, other skills needed are to restore trust or let go of past resentments. These are learnable skills which benefit many couples many couples to help them get things back on track. I have been teaching anger management, conflict resolution and communication skills for 15 years to hundreds of individuals and couples. I am also co-author of a nationally recognized workbook of anger management skills which is used by many therapists across the country. 

Many couples see immediate improvement when they start applying these practial skills between therapy sessions. Some couples stay at this level and are quite happy with their marriage. Other couples, however, want to take their relationship to the next level which I consider the second stage of therapy. This involves more work, time and commitment. In therapy, I teach couples to communciate at deeper levels what their expecations of marriage are, what needs they may have that are being met (or not) in the marriage, an alternative ways that deeper needs may be met either in the marriage or outside the marriage, or some comnbination of the two.  Some times, too much pressure is put on the marriage itself to make partners happy, when in reallity, there should be better balance between personal fulfillment and marital fulfullment. This can be a liberating concept, especially at certain stages of the marriage.

Credentials
Credential Information
Jurisdiction: 
California
License Type: Licensed Clinical Psychologist (PSY)
License Number: Psy6670
Marriage & Couples Counseling
Marriage & Couples Counseling
Anger Management Issues

Marriage Counseling focused on Healthy vs Unhealthy expressions of anger, addressing root causes, and how to express anger in nondestructive ways:

Anger is a completely normal, usually healthy, human emotion. But when it gets out of control and turns destructive, it can lead to problems—problems at work, in your personal relationships, and in the overall quality of your life. And it can make you feel as though you're at the mercy of an unpredictable and powerful emotion.

Anxiety Issues

Marriage Counseling focused on addressing relationship issues related to anxiety, reducing symptoms, while addressing the root causes of the anxiety:

Anxiety is defined as, a persistent or chronic, unsubstantiated concern that causes significant distress, resulting in disturbances in your social life, or interferes with your course work, or professional life. Individuals with anxiety disorders amy avoid  common social situations for fear of being judged, embarrassed, or humiliated. Panic attacks or persistent worry and anticipation of panic attacks, are common symptoms as are feelings of terror or impending doom. Other symptoms may include, an apparent irrational fear or avoidance of an object, place, or situation.

Conflict Resolution Issues

Marriage Counseling focused on constructive conflict resolution techniques and strategies:

Conflict in intimate relationships arises from many areas, including communication, intimacy, values, perceptions, parenting and the list goes on. When a conflict triggers strong feelings, a deep personal need is often at the core of the problem. These needs can be a need to feel safe and secure, a need to feel respected and valued, or a need for greater closeness and intimacy.

Divorce Issues

Couples Counseling focused on addressing divorce related issues and their impact on your family, transitioning to a co-parenting relationship, while reducing and alleviating stress:

Divorce is a difficulty time for all involved . Therapy assists families with working through the difficult process, that includes getting through the painful emotions, considering the best interests of children and developing good co-parenting relations.

Emotional affair issues

Marriage Counseling focused on addressing issues related to emotional affairs, reducing and soothing symptoms, while addressing the root causes of the emotional affair:

Emotional relationships venture into dangerous territory. They may not initially lead to physical involvement, but they can still devastate marriages. It might have started with a conversation over the Internet, or with a seemingly innocent friendship in the workplace. These romances may seem harmless — perhaps even "safe" alternatives to cheating on your spouse. The truth is, such relationships venture into dangerous territory; they may not initially lead to physical involvement, but they can still devastate marriages.

Financial Issues

Marriage Counseling focused on addressing and reducing the effects of financial stresses, and its impact on your relationship:

Financial concerns impact many areas of your life and relationship, including but not limited to, physical, relational and emotional well being, and other related issues, and concerns.

Infidelity / Affair Recovery Issues

Marriage Counseling focused on addressing issues related to infidelity, reducing and soothing symptoms, while addressing the root causes of infidelity:

Infidelity in a committed relationship can create a significant strain on both partners and on the relationship itself. An affair often signals the end a relationship, but not always, with competent professional assistance and a commitment from both partners, sometimes it can be a significant turning point for the better. Often an affair may take the other partner completely by surprise, leaving that person feeling devastated, aggrieved, betrayed, jealous, confused, and alone. Some individuals and couples seek therapy at such a time to help recover and move on. 

Life Transitions Issues

Marriage Counseling focused on addressing and attenuating the effects of life transitions, and their impact on your relationship:

In the simplest terms, transition is change. In a broader sense however, transitions are life’s way of asking us to reexamine our present way of being. These transitions can be predictable such as a child leaving for college or marriage, or they can be unpredictable, such as the sudden death of a loved one or a traumatic accident. Whatever the degree or intensity of the event, every transition we experience has one thing in common. It forces us to make changes to our existing life. And with change, comes resistance. A major life transition literally closes one chapter of our life, and starts a new one, putting us in a new place and direction that we have not walked before. It is often a very difficult adjustment as we endure intense feelings of fear, doubt, and uncertainty.

Sex & Intimacy Issues

Marriage Counseling focused on addressing sex and intimacy related issues, reducing and mitigating symptoms, while addressing their root causes:

Part of being intimate is being sexual together. When there is a problem in the sexual relationship it can be very difficult for couples. Loss of desire can be common in both men and women. The partner who does not want to have sex may seem as if they have ‘shut down’. It may seem as if he or she never initiates sex or has lost interest in the other partner, this can lead to other difficult feelings, ranging from minor frustrations to severe distress.

Stress Management Issues

Marriage Counseling focused on developing constructive stress management techniques and strategies:

Stress symptoms may be affecting your health, frequent headaches, insomnia, chest pains, irritability, decreased productivity, and even forgetfulness. Stress may actually be the root cause of all of these symptoms. Stress symptoms can affect your body, your thoughts and feelings, and especially your behavior. Being able to recognize common stress symptoms can give you a jump on managing them. Stress that's left unchecked can contribute to health problems such as high blood pressure, heart disease, obesity and diabetes.

Substance Abuse Issues

Marriage Counseling focused on addressing relationship issues related to substance use / abuse, reducing symptoms, while addressing the root causes of the substance use / abuse:

Substance use can cause difficulty in every area of your life, work, home, school, and your relationships, leaving you feeling lonely, powerless, and remorseful. It's not always easy to see when your substance use has crossed the line from "moderate or social use" to problem abuse. But if you use substances to cope with difficulties or to avoid feeling bad, you're in potentially dangerous territory. Substance use / abuse can sneak up on you, so it's important to be aware of the warning signs and take steps if you recognize them. Understanding the problem is the first step to overcoming it.

Trust Issues

Marriage Counseling focused on addressing and diminishing symptoms related to trust, and addressing the root causes for the trust issues:

Trust is a fundamental human experience, at the root of all trust issues is a past betrayal. Whether abused as a child or cheated on by a spouse, the betrayed person will go through life seeing herself as less desirable than others, or believing herself to be unlovable. She/he will keep others at a distance, avoiding intimate relationships. Only by working through these trust issues - or, rather, lack of trust issues - can the person learn to maintain a healthy boundary while still letting others in.

Individual Counseling
Individual Counseling & Coaching
Anger Management Issues

Counseling focused on Healthy vs Unhealthy expressions of anger, addressing root causes, and how to express anger in nondestructive ways:

Anger is a completely normal, usually healthy, human emotion. But when it gets out of control and turns destructive, it can lead to problems--problems at work, in your personal relationships, and in the overall quality of your life. And it can make you feel as though you're at the mercy of an unpredictable and powerful emotion.

Divorce Issues

Counseling focused on addressing and easing the effects of a divorce:

Divorce is a difficult time for all involved . Therapy assists families with working through the difficult process, that includes getting through the painful emotions, considering the best interests of children and developing good co-parenting relations.

Emotional Affair Issues

Counseling focused on addressing issues related to emotional affairs, reducing and soothing symptoms, while addressing the root causes of the emotional affair:

Emotional relationships venture into dangerous territory. They may not initially lead to physical involvement, but they can still devastate marriages. It might have started with a conversation over the Internet, or with a seemingly innocent friendship in the workplace. These romances may seem harmless — perhaps even "safe" alternatives to cheating on your spouse. The truth is, such relationships venture into dangerous territory. They may not initially lead to physical involvement, but they can still devastate marriages.

Impulse Control Issues

Counseling focused on addressing and relieving the root causes in the struggle to maintain control over your impulses:

Most of us take our ability to think before we act for granted. But this isn’t easy for people who have problems controlling their impulses. People with an impulse control issues can’t resist the urge to do something harmful to themselves or others. Usually, a person feels increasing tension or arousal before committing the act that characterizes the problem. During the act, the person probably will feel pleasure, gratification or relief. Afterward, the person may blame himself or feel regret or guilt.

Infidelity / Affair Recovery Issues

Counseling focused on addressing issues related to infidelity, reducing and soothing symptoms, while addressing the root causes of infidelity:

Infidelity in a committed relationship can create a significant strain on both partners and on the relationship itself. An affair often signals the end of a relationship, but not always. With competent professional assistance and a commitment from both partners, sometimes it can be a significant turning point for the better. Often an affair may take the other partner completely by surprise, leaving that person feeling devastated, aggrieved, betrayed, jealous, confused, and alone. Some individuals and couples seek therapy at such a time to help recover and move on.

Parenting Issues

Counseling focused on Healthy vs Unhealthy methods of parenting children, addressing root causes, and developing healthy parenting strategies:

No one is born with natural parenting skills. They are something that is learned from watching our own parents or from our own care givers. We do what we have learned, or what we have not learned! It is learned behavior.

Relationships and Dating Issues

Counseling focused on addressing issues related to dating and developing a long term relationship, reducing and mitigating symptoms, while addressing the root causes:

You watch the relationship red flags waving at you, but gosh, she’s/he's just so good-looking. So you dismiss them to see where the relationship will go. The problem with turning a blind eye to those red flags is that eventually they’ll come back to haunt you. You end up hurt and resentful, and upset with yourself.

Self Esteem & personal growth Issues

Counseling focused on addressing issues related to self esteem & personal growth Issues, reducing and easing symptoms, while addressing the root causes:

Life is full of challenges, but often we don’t move forward until change is forced upon us. Upheaval forces us to re-evaluate who we are and how we got into the situation we are in. Personal growth refers to learning new and better ways to deal with life, for example learning to understand and handle emotions more effectively, or learning to communicate better.

Stress Management Issues

Counseling focused on developing constructive stress management techniques and strategies:

Stress symptoms may be affecting your health, even though you might not realize it. You may think illness is to blame for that nagging headache, your frequent insomnia or your decreased productivity at work. But stress may actually be the culprit. Indeed, stress symptoms can affect your body, your thoughts and feelings, and your behavior. Being able to recognize common stress symptoms can give you a jump on managing them. Stress that's left unchecked can contribute to health problems such as high blood pressure, heart disease, obesity and diabetes.

Trust Issues

Counseling focused on addressing and diminishing symptoms related to trust, and addressing the root causes for the trust issues:

Trust is a fundamental human experience, at the root of all trust issues is a past betrayal. Whether abused as a child or cheated on by a spouse, the betrayed person will go through life seeing her/himself as less desirable than others, or believing her/himself to be unlovable. She will keep others at a distance, avoiding intimate relationships. Only by working through these trust issues - or, rather, lack of trust issues - can the person learn to maintain a healthy boundary while still letting others in.

Counseling Approaches
Counseling Approaches
Acceptance & Commitment Therapy (ACT)

A cognitive–behavioral model of psychotherapy.It is an empirically based psychological intervention. It uses a combination of mindfulness and commitment based counseling techniques coupled with behavior changes.

Cognitive Behavior Therapy (CBT)

Cognitive behavioral therapy is a counseling approach that aims to teach the person new skills on how to solve problems concerning dysfunctional emotions, behaviors and cognitions through a goal-oriented, systematic procedure.

Discernment counseling

Discernment counseling is an approach to counseling focused on assisting couples to examine all of their options before making a decision about divorce. This approach is appropriate for couples where one partner wants to work on and improve the relationship and the other is “leaning” towards a dissolution of the relationship. Discernment counseling differs from traditional marriage counseling in three ways: 1) The focus is on whether or not the problems in the marriage can be resolved, as opposed to working to solve the problems. 2) The therapist meets mostly 1x1 with each individual as opposed to meeting as a couple, with the focus being on each individuals “agenda” for the counseling process. It is only towards the end of the process that the therapist and couple meet as a group to discuss where the relationship is going. 3) Discernment counseling is a “brief therapy”, usually lasting from 4-6 sessions.

Gottman Method

The Gottman method - This an approach to marriage and couples counseling that centers on 9 relationship specific tasks or skills. These areas of focus are: love maps, commitment, mutual fondness and admiration, trust, being responsive to each other's needs, creating and having shared meaning in your relationship, positive approach to problem solving, making life dreams come true, and having a positive perspective.  These 9 areas of focus are designed to restore marital harmony.

Individual Counseling

Individual counseling is an opportunity to talk confidentially with a counselor about personal concerns and to facilitate personal growth. The counselor and client work together to define and discuss personal issues and to reach mutually agreed upon goals.  Addressing a range of issues such as: Depression, anxiety (panic attacks, test anxiety, social anxiety, obsessive compulsive disorders), eating disorders, relationship difficulties, family conflict, grief and loss, self esteem, sexuality, substance abuse, sexual assault/trauma, anger management.

Marriage Counseling

Marriage counseling is a type of therapy for a married couple or established couple that assists in resolving problems in the relationship. Typically, two people attend counseling sessions together to discuss specific issues. Marriage counseling helps couples learn to deal more effectively with problems, and can help prevent problems from becoming more serious. Research shows that marriage counseling, when effective, tends to improve a person's physical as well as mental health, in addition to improving the relationship.

Premarital Counseling

What does premarital counseling look like? It is as varying and unique as the personality and background of the therapist. Finding someone that you can trust, and who honors your unique situation, is essential. All too many couples get caught up in spending time planning their weddings without developing a plan for their marriage. The early stages of a relationship, when the feelings you have for your partner are usually positive, is the ideal time to become more conscious and intentional in the ways you interact and work together. Counseling can give you insights into where your particular relationship dynamics might be heading in the wrong direction. There is an educational aspect to pre-marital counseling as well, so that you can learn better communication skills and learn how to negotiate conflict so that you can resolve your differences in a way that actually strengthens your connection.

Psychobiological Approach to Couple Therapy® (PACT)

Psychobiological Approach to Couple Therapy® (PACT) - This is a fusion of several approaches to hum an behavior as it pertains to psychotherapy. PACT therapy is a fusion of attachment theory, developmental neuroscience, and arousal regulation.  Attachment theory, postulates that early childhood relationships directly effect the ways in which we conduct ourselves in our adult relationships. Developmental neuroscience postulates that our brains are hard wired to both seek safety and relationships, which can a source of internal relationship conflict. Lastly arousal regulation, meaning the moment-to-moment ability to manage one’s energy, alertness, and readiness to engage. PACT therapists use elements of all three of these theories, it has a reputation for effectively treating the most challenging couples. This approach was developed by Dr. Stan Tatkin.

Workshops
Therapeutic growth workshops & intensives address core underlying issues that keep individuals, couples, and families stuck in dysfunctional patterns.
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